You don’t have to search far to find endless lifestyle blogs offering advice on style, love, career, health, and more. The Internet abounds with a wide range of seemingly contradictory information.
Drink coffee. Don’t drink coffee. Exercise a lot. Exercise a little.
The inundation of conflicting information can be pretty overwhelming. And relationships often follow suit. If you’re anything like me, the moment you hear one life experience that has guided an individual’s decision-making for decades, another person shares something completely opposite.
How, then, can anyone be expected to move forward and make progress in life? Decision paralysis is a very real mindset that complicates what we’re able to accomplish. Recently, the idea of making One Wrong Move has gained attention. Students, in particular, are susceptible to this condition that essentially goes like this: if I make the wrong choice right now, it will ruin the rest of my life!
How sad! Human beings learn through failure. Through understanding what not to do and determining what to repeat and what not to repeat. A society teaching children that perfection is the only acceptable standard worth attaining is making the very mistake it seeks to avoid.
In his piece for Tiny Buddha, Matt Duczeminiski shares his personal account of growing up with the fear of never being ready. He took the safe route in college. He was one of the last to move out of his parents’ home as a young adult. He missed opportunities to determine what he really wanted to do with his life. All because of a fear that he lacked the skills needed to build a real life.
Matt’s story is a familiar one. Whether your past looks similar to his or you are currently experiencing some of the same circumstances right now, the good news is you don’t have to live a life of fear.
Stop The Comparison Game
You are not your friends. Nor are you the person on the reality show, or the celebrity on social media. You are you. And you have contributions to make, unique skills that only you can offer, and a perspective that the world needs.
The sooner you accept the brilliant, wondrous person you are, the better off you will be. Because comparison is a terrible thing. It holds us back and can prevent us from realizing the best we have to give.
Make the commitment to leave comparison behind and focus on yourself.
Determine What Is Holding You Back
Sometimes our personal blind spots are the most obvious things to those around us. This doesn’t mean hearing what those blind spots are is always easy. Hardly! But, dropping our guard and accepting honest input is really important.
Sometimes this comes from friends and family. While the expertise of a therapist may be required depending on your situation.
You can’t expect to move forward if you don’t know what’s holding you back. Take the necessary steps to identify these areas in your life. You’ll be amazed at what you can accomplish once you have.