Teenage years are hard on adolescents. Perhaps, even tougher, are the toll they take on the parents. No matter how ready you feel you are, there will be plenty of surprises along the way. However, there are many parenting tips for raising teenage boys and girls, which can help in your attempt to raise children who grow to become rational, productive adults.
Anyone who parents an adolescent knows it ain’t easy. Commonly, we witness frequent outbursts and unpredictable mood changes. And, there’s a definite shift toward a preference for spending time with peers rather than family. It is sometimes tough to see the light ahead. But, try and keep faith. This stage will pass. Remember, it did for us!
Here are a few tips for raising teenage boys and girls that may offer some support:
The first step to nailing parenting during this difficult phase of your child’s life is to try and understand what is going on with them. We need to have empathy and view life from their perspective, if possible. This will give you the patience and compassion that you will desperately need. The human brain is still going through development processes during the teenage years. Noteworthy, this is mainly why you will witness your teenager making numerous rash decisions.
Additionally, because of the hormonal changes taking place in the body, they are likely to experiment with new habits and lifestyles. Knowing all these facts beforehand can help you prepare for this stage of your child’s life. Also, remember to breathe, be patient, and try not to have knee-jerk reactions. Your attempt to be rational and not overly reactive may also serve as a good model.
Keeping the lines of communication open with your child during this time is essential. Make sure that you build and maintain a sense of trust. Otherwise, your child may keep significant information and concerns away from you.
Hence, to prevent your child from making impulsive or unreasonable decisions, it is important that you communicate with them about openly what is going on in their lives.
3. Getting Involved
Keeping the lines of communication open is not the same as getting involved in your child’s life. If you want to become a confidant, you will have to make sure that you and your teen are on the same page. This includes always making sure that you are aware of your teen’s whereabouts and activities. Keeping yourself informed of the friends your child hangs out is important. If you can meet them, that’s even more beneficial. Monitor (without an oppressive edge) the kind of activities they engage in. If you can ever join in those activities or attend sports, concerts, or extracurricular interests with them, that’s another bonus.
4. Providing a Peaceful Environment
Another important step is to ensure the provision of a peaceful and welcoming environment at home. Your teen will be more likely to stay away and try out new (perhaps unsavory) things if they are not comfortable with the environment at home.
5. Giving Proper Knowledge
It is important that parents inform their children about the dangers associated with substance abuse. Because of the ease of availability of drugs these days, it’s essential to have these discussions. Having difficult conversations about drug abuse, sex, and STDs is something that you should not delay at any cost. It is better to let your child know about the dangerous consequences rather than letting them learn the hard way. A properly informed teen may be less likely to take part in detrimental activities.
Hopefully some of the above mentioned tips for raising teenage boys and girls will offer some support. Parents play a very important role in their children’s lives, especially during adolescence. Get Thrive has a large selection of current and archived articles on this topic, which may also prove to be worthy.
Additionally, Dr. Dave Campbell is also currently offering his eBook for free for a limited time. The Teen Formula: A Parent’s Guide To Helping Your Child Avoid Substance Abuse HERE available in paperback or on Kindle.